Reader,
The moments when we're figuring out what comes next after major change are the moments when we need each other the most.
My husband and I lived in Puerto Rico when we first got married. At the time, he was a rescue swimmer for the Coast Guard. And he'd be called away on short notice to help with ocean search and rescue.
One day he came home and told me the most incredible story – and it completely shifted how I think about getting through hard times.
There had been a small plane crash off the coast of the Dominican Republic. The pilots had been able to do what is called a "ditching" where you land the aircraft on the water. (In reality, it's more of a controlled crash into the water.)
By the time my husband arrived on scene, everyone had evacuated and had formed a circle, linking arms.
They were treading water and when someone got too tired to stay above water – or they were too injured to keep themselves afloat – they could stop kicking because the other people in the circle could hold them up. This gave the tired person a chance to catch their breath and regain their strength. And when they were ready, they could start kicking again, giving someone else a chance to rest. This is how they all survived until the rescue team arrived on scene.
If we found ourselves in the water, I believe we would come together to help each other stay afloat. Why then do we not do this when we’re in the metaphorical ocean of change and uncertainty?
Think about it – something big happens and shifts everything. Our first response is to lock down, stay focused, just power through it. We've been taught not to burden people with our struggles. So we talk ourselves out of asking for help or letting others know what we're going through.
And when you're already dealing with illness, divorce, job loss, or caregiving, that message gets even louder.
You tell yourself: If I were stronger, I'd be able to handle this. If I were smarter, I would have seen this coming. If I were more prepared, I wouldn't be struggling.
So we try to work through it all by ourselves. And eventually we discover that carrying it alone is simply too heavy. We end up exhausted, keeping our head above water while also moving forward.
But we were never meant to do it on our own. We actually need other people to help us weather the storm because uncertainty needs to be navigated collectively.
When your life changes in ways you didn't plan for - illness, divorce, job loss, caregiving – you need people who will link arms with you. People who will hold you up when you can't keep kicking. People who understand that needing to rest doesn't mean you're failing.
And you need to be willing to let them hold you.
That's the part I think so many of us struggle with. Because the message we get is that needing support means we're not handling it well. That if we were stronger, smarter, more prepared, we wouldn't need help.
That technique of linking arms and forming a circle? It's taught in water survival classes. Those classes don't teach self-sufficiency. They teach inter-dependence. Because that's what keeps everyone alive.
Community and support aren't nice-to-haves when you're navigating uncertain times. They're essential. They're what make it possible to keep going when your own strength runs out.
If you're in a season where you need support for a while, I have a variety of spaces that can hold you – including a new one coming this Spring.
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